You might have heard sagas starting with this phrase. Yes, I used to, from my granny who is no more. They may be called as 'tales', 'sagas', 'myths' or whatever you call it as, feels good to listen before going asleep. Those were childhood years.
In my definition, 'Nightmares' - are those which we would have never expected to happen in our lives, but somehow they happen to happen ;) Or even bad dreams while being asleep are usually called as nightmares. And Day Dreams - are those which we dream of but there would be a high impossibility of them becoming true, can say almost impossible. We dream of something which would be a fantacy. We work hard to make that happen. Only afew can make it come true, but many of us still remain working on it to make it true or give it up at some point of time, after so many efforts.
Of course, to dream is ones' right. But work on it accordingly to make it happen rather just waiting for something to come true without putting any efforts. It would 'hurt' ourselves when we dream of something and will not work on it at all. Instead don't dream when you think you can not work on it - is what my point is.
Once upon a time, in early 1900's, going to US was like a Day Dream. As time pased by, the dream of going to US had started becoming true, at least for those who are professionals. And now, it may be the same situation as early 1900's to go to US due to many significant factors. It would be taking a day-dream form again. Vice versely, I've seen few people who got a chance to work in US through their company and feel that as a nightmare. This could be because of the attachment with their family/ home sick factor/ phobic to new culture or community/ or could be anything. They don't even think how that's gonna help build the power of ones' Resume. They just reject the offer and limit themselves to be in a closet. Why? Are they under confident? Or are they not willing to explore the world, people, (work) cultures... and they don't wanna come out of the closets which are like black-boxes?
Reasons may vary or could be many. And I know I don't have to comment on an individual's thoughts. Rather I'm not commenting but trying to explore what could be the reason(s) for not accepting such offers which can help one's self-development. If not settling down in as an alien in the new continent, can go and explore for few months. Am I correct?
My own experiences had proven my self development, in terms of communication, transparency in putting ideas/ thoughts (we also call it as open mindedness)/ technical knowledge growth and in so many significant aspects. To brief, I'd attained growth in both my personal and professional stuff. Small example when talking about SDLC, is the out-sourced job will have less chances of it's franrance where as in the base location, you may get a chance to explore and work on full SDLC criteria, which helps you to help yourself understand what's going on in a particular project or task, from the scratch till the end. I've known things which I haven't known in my whole life living in India. Our mentality is almost limited. Even I will be selfish in few things thinking of most negatives which could be the outcome of 'what if I do' than thinking of the positives out of it. I know that if I be optimistic in my thoughts, can let positives rule over all the negatives, if any. But still at times I be pessimistic - thinking of all the cons side of that particular thing. Why? Is it our mentality set by our environment? Can't we overcome such pessimistic thoughts? 'Only God can help me' is what I hate to think of. It's we who have to help ourselves. If not, take HELP from others who cares for you!!
I know you would now say - "preaching is very easy than implementing". Well it is sounds easy but implementing will also be easy when we have that 'willingness'. I'm not so great as my writing may imply. But at at least I've started thinking about it.
Finally, my idea is when we can not come out of the closet, we better stop dreaming of anything. And if we dream of anything, better move our lazy ass to work on it and try making it come true. If we can not, we might probably end up telling 'once upon a time.....' to our next generation, than telling 'em about present and future.
Any thoughts? Can feel free to deny mine if I'm wrong or to support me if I sound realistic!
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Since when I started knowing the 'world', I'd found discrimination everywhere, in almost all the aspects I'd gone through.
You might have had seen such things. I know a school where there were different uniforms for students depending on their 'religion'. That sounded ridiculous to me which was the first pathetic thing I've heard and felt bad about. They give their own reasons on 'why', but to us it's always sounds like a discrimination. So, I am sure, every one of you might have faced such things since when you even wouldn't have known what's the meaning of 'discrimination'. So, this was the start!!
As we grow up, might have seen many such people/ communities, creating riots and calling them 'aandolan' or whatever. We might also had behaved in such way with some or the other person(s). I accept that I was a racist, I didn't like Catholics, but that's when I was a kid. This mentality of mine had a reason - the so called environment where I'd grown up.
Truly - Environment/ Society will also be responsible for what we are currently, at times. And so - 'Parents'. We are (at least how I think) totally clones of our parents in terms of attitude (not talking about physical appearances and that stuff). If not completely, at least a bit of it rules in us - good or bad. I won't be surprised if I will the victim of such discrimination by people of society for writing this blog. The society is that 'thing' which may call 'Love' as the synonym of 'Lust' and lets us bound to believe it as a fact. But are you gonna be the one who will be part of that so called society which doesn't know what is what? I would NEVER!!
And that's how we grow up, carrying the essence of attitude with us. We will never know cons of ones self unless heard from a friend or a foe. We usually grow up in such a way that we always seeks either others to praise us or be self-proclaiming. But nevertheless, we will realize at some point of time and try to attain/ retain what we lost/ gonna lose. We learn from mistakes. And try not to repeat the same mistake. We reach a stage where we think we are totally matured. But there will be something is us which still lets others think we are immature/ foolish.
I can talk about one issue (which we think it is, but actually not - at least to me) as well. We discriminate Gays/ Lesbians - Why? We take it funny/ kinky when we hear that 'he' slept with 100 women and forget it later. But when we come to know that some 'he' slept with a guy (had to use this language, pls excuse me if it's offensive), we start saying - oh crap, unnatural, sin and what not? Do/ does they bother you in any ways? Do they force/ insist 'You' to have sexual stuff with them? Why only 'unnatural sex' hits our mind-sets when we talk about Gay/ Lesbians? Can't there be much more beyond just that what we call as 'insanity'? Is that really insanity? They live their own lives and don't interfere in our lives intentionally, then why not let them live in peace? Why to worry ourselves or to annoy them when they are gonna be responsible for their own lives without disturbing us (others)?
Well, I myself am very neural towards them - no hatred/ no harsh feelings. What I feel is it's their lives and they are happy with it on a mutual understanding. It's not gonna harm me anyways if they are my friends or whatsoever, because I know what I'm and I know what I need. Simple!! But I've heard myself from my own friends itself commenting on them very funnily even though they didn't even exchange a single word with those friends of mine. They just pass by on street and that's it. I can't argue with such people who had already decided something and don't wanna come out of the closet , because I know they obviously will deny my thoughts about it. So, I keep calm without commenting anything and giving a grin.
Not only this sexuality stuff, we discriminate others in so many things. If we live in USA and if we are with our own community (such as Telugu/ Gujarati etc etc), we will be least bothered about people who are not belonging to that community which we call our 'own'. And when we don't have such community around us, we become part of that community of people whom we would have defined as 'others' if we wouldn't have been deserted.. Lol....
Not only these, there is Age Discrimination, Race Discrimination ................. omg.. what not!!
Not sure why such things happens with 'us'. Why we have multiple forms of behaviors (or should I call 'Attitudes'?) depending upon the situations? Hmmmm....
Discrimination, Racism and what not we develop in ourselves w/ or w/ no intentions. We become ignorant and claim as if we are innocent. Why?
I hope you got what I'm trying to convey you. Well I don't say I'm a 'proper' human being. I've discriminated few people too. I have some weaknesses which I always can work on, rather working on.
Please let me know your thoughts about 'my' thoughts and put your thoughts - no matter what thoughts they are gonna be.
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